Frequently Asked Questions

What happens in counselling?

Counselling can take different forms depending on your needs and what type of therapy may be suitable.

At Quietwaters Counselling therapy takes place in planned, regular sessions which last for around one hour.

How Long is Therapy Going to Take?

How often you see your therapist and how many appointments you have will depend on your individual circumstances, and will be agreed between you and me as we progress.  We do appreciate that therapy can be expensive so we can talk through options as we move forward.

As the client, it is important to know that you are in charge and free to end the therapy at any time.  Though a session or two notice will be helpful in wrapping things up well.

What Happens in Therapy?

During a session, your therapist may take you through specific exercises designed to help with your problem, or you might have more general discussions about how you’re feeling. What you talk about will vary depend on what you want help with and the therapist’s approach. It could include:

  • your relationships
  • your childhood
  • your feelings, emotions or thoughts
  • your behaviour
  • past and present life events
  • situations you find difficult

Your therapist will be impartial but understanding. They will listen to you without judgment and help you explore your thoughts and emotions. They may offer information, but they won’t tell you what you should think or do.

What should I expect in my first therapy session?

In general terms the first session should always cover:


Your therapist should spend a few minutes introducing themselves and explaining how they work. You can ask them about their qualifications and experience, your therapy or anything you’re not sure about. Your therapist will want to make sure you feel at ease by sorting out basic things like where you would like to sit, and whether you use first names or are more formal.


Your therapist may ask you if you would like to give a history of the problems you’re experiencing. They might want you to complete some forms, or go through information they’ve received about you, such as a letter from your GP. Or they may just ask you to ‘tell your story’. It’s important that you feel you’ve had the opportunity to tell the therapist about what’s troubling you.

Counselling Contracts

Your therapist should agree the terms, or contract with you, about how they will provide their services. This may be either a verbal agreement or a printed document for you both to sign.

This first session is important for making sure that you feel comfortable with your therapist and their way of working. You don’t have to continue if you can’t relate to us or don’t feel safe.

How do I get the most out of my therapy?

You’ll get the best results from your therapy if you’re open and honest with your therapist and say how you’re really feeling.

Your relationship with your therapist is very important. If you’re to work effectively together, you should feel safe and able to take risks by disclosing and discussing sensitive issues. That includes being able to give them honest feedback on how you feel about your therapy and how you’re working together.